To be trans and disabled means to have experienced harassment, discrimination, loneliness, often poverty, to have struggled with feeling unworthy of love.

To be trans and disabled means experiencing ableism within our trans communities and transphobia within our disabled communities.

To be trans and disabled means to love our fellow trans and disabled people harder than we could ever love ourselves.

This anthology brings together vulnerable stories, poems, plays, drawings, and personal essays. They explore how we make sense of ourselves, our intersections of identities and experiences, of how we are treated, and how much love we are capable of, sometimes even for ourselves.

Ground-breaking anthology of writing on the intersection of disability and gender identity from trans disabled writers.

About the Author
Alex Iantaffi, PhD, MS, SEP, CST, CST-S, LMFT (they/he/lui) is an award-winning author, family therapist, WPATH certified gender specialist, AASECT certified sex therapist, Somatic ExperiencingR practitioner, and clinical supervisor. Alex is currently President of the Minnesota Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (MAMFT) and Past Chair of the Trans and Queer interest network of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). They were the recipient of the 2023 AASECT Humanitarian Award, the 2019 MAMFT Distinguished Service Award, the 2013 Twin Cities Deaf Pride Community Organization Award, the 2012 Breaking the Silence Award at the University of Minnesota, and the 2000 Best Dissertation Award from the British Educational Research Association. Alex has researched, presented and published extensively on gender, disability, sexuality, relationships, and HIV. They are a trans masculine, nonbinary, bi queer, neurodivergent, disabled, Italian immigrant who has been living on Dakota and Anishinaabe territories, currently known as Minnesota (US) since 2008. Alex is the author of "Gender Trauma: healing cultural, social, and historical gendered trauma", which was awarded the Nautilus award (gold category) in 2022 and the AASECT Book Award for Sexuality Professionals in 2023. They are the co-author of the books "How to Understand Your Gender: a practical guide for exploring who you are", "Life Isn't Binary", "Hell Yeah Self-Care: a Trauma-Informed Workbook", "How To Understand Your Sexuality: a practical guide for exploring who you are" and the upcoming "How to Understand Your Relationships" with Meg-John Barker. They also host the podcast Gender Stories. You can find out more about them at www.alexiantaffi.com or follow them on Instagram @xtaffi, @genderstories and @edginghearts

Reviews
Wow. This was such an excellent collection of essays, poems, stories and plays. It really captured what it's like to navigate the world as a trans and disabled person and made me feel seen, really really seen, for the first time in my life. I felt understood and validated in my transness and disabled-ness. I think this would be a great read for others like me but also people who have someone who's trans and disabled in their life, to help them to better understand what that experience can be like." -- NetGalley Reviewer
I have never read anything like this in my life. There is a kind of invisibility that Trans and Disabled (and Black) folks are forced to experience, and as a result, their lives, stories, and experiences are kept out of the purview of those who would most benefit from understanding them. This book is important to me as I continue "coming to terms" with my disabled identity, and as someone who deeply cares about people with different bodyminds and lived experiences. It offers a window into the worlds we often don't see, while also serving as a mirror for those of us who live in the margins, validating our existence and struggles. This is more than just a book-it's an invitation to listen, learn, and reflect on what it means to truly be seen. -- N. Oumou Sylla, LMFT Founder of Joko Wellness



Book Information
ISBN 9781839970801
Author Alex Iantaffi
Format Paperback
Page Count 160
Imprint Jessica Kingsley Publishers
Publisher Jessica Kingsley Publishers
Weight(grams) 41g