Finding what works for you in non-monogamy is highly personal and contextual - it can be tricky to know where your own boundaries lie. Quite often, we don't know we want a boundary somewhere, until it has already been crossed. This journal is designed to help you explore and anticipate potential needs and conflicts - perhaps before they've even arisen!

Within these pages are dozens of scenarios to explore, themed around Boundaries, Structure, Emotions, Compromises, Sexuality and Infidelity. With topics that include meeting and managing metamours, beginning relationships with infidelity, cowpoking, sexual health, One Penis Policies, compersion, first nights together - and so many more - this is the perfect companion for working out your own unique approach to non-monogamy.

A journal with written activities and prompts to better understand your needs and preferences in non-monogamy.

About the Author
Lola Phoenix has been non-monogamous for over a decade, and runs the popular weekly relationship advice column and podcast, Non-Monogamy Help. Their writing has appeared in Medium, Huffington Post, Pink News, Gay Star News, The Independent, and Everyday Feminism. Their first book The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy, came out in 2022. They are based in Stockholm, Sweden.

Reviews
Even when you've read a lot about relationships, it's easy to avoid really considering potential challenges until you're confronted with them.The Non-Monogamy Workbook provides a comprehensive list of the most common situations that crop up in non-monogamous life, including realistic scenarios to help readers to tune into what they'll feel if - or when - they happen to them. Rather than providing any kind of easy answers, Lola Phoenix guides readers through helpful sets of questions to enable them to create their own route-maps for how to navigate relationship agreements, conflicts, boundaries, tough feelings, community tensions, and more. An invaluable relationship resource. -- Meg-John Barker, Author of Rewriting the Rules and How To Understand Your Relationships.
The Non-Monogamy Journal is a clarifying and empowering journal for readers navigating the nuanced waters of non-monogamy. By presenting real-life scenarios and challenges, Lola empowers us to clarify our needs; honor where we might need boundaries; and envision how to communicate with our partners in a grounded way. It's incredibly practical, helping us devise concrete road maps for navigating some of non-monogamy's most difficult and rewarding terrains. The Non-Monogamy Journal a must-read for anyone wishing to embrace non-monogamy with integrity, clarity, and fierce self-possession. -- Hailey Magee, author of STOP People Pleasing and Find Your Power
I want to nominate Lola Phoenix to host a polyamory-themed TV game show! They present every messy, complicated poly drama imaginable, and although it will make you squirm, it really helps you think through solutions. Check it out!" -- Kathy Labriola, author of The Polyamory Break-up Book
The Non-Monogamy Journal is so practical and helpful. For anyone who feels lost or unsure about where to even start, these prompts and questions are really valuable. -- Genevieve King, @chillpolyamory
Lola Phoenix has once again delivered an invaluable resource for anyone practicing or exploring non-monogamy. As a psychosexual relationship therapist specialising in Gender, Sex, and Relationship Diversity, I can already see how this journal will benefit my clients. With comprehensive scenarios and thoughtful prompts, it provides essential guidance for individuals, couples, and constellations navigating the complex terrain of non-monogamous relationships. Whether you're new to non-monogamy or a seasoned practitioner, The Non-Monogamy Journal offers reflection and insight that is both practical and profound. -- Genevieve Collister Brown



Book Information
ISBN 9781805014225
Author Lola Phoenix
Format Paperback
Page Count 224
Imprint Jessica Kingsley Publishers
Publisher Jessica Kingsley Publishers