"A deeply relatable, comforting guide for anyone who ever feels overwhelmed by parenthood . . . does not shy away from matters like the author's postpartum depression, loneliness, and financial strain. This authenticity sets Even God Had Bad Parenting Days apart from other parenting books."

--Leah Grisham, The Jewish Book Council

"Heartfelt, funny, and poignant" --The Jewish Review

"A multidimensional work of meditation and love" --Mikhal Wiener, Lilith

New parents get overwhelmed, regularly pushed to their limits and confused by contradictory feelings of elation and near-despair.

To soothe the frazzled and lift their spirits, writer and Bible scholar Alicia Jo Rabins has created "Even God Had Bad Parenting Days: ancient Jewish wisdom for new parents." Humorous, self-reflective, and comforting, Rabins' musings on both heartening and cringe-worthy biblical examples of parenting can help any caregiver see beyond the detritus of day-to-day living with young children and recapture a sense of wonder at the process of raising small humans.

Parents do worry about their failed attempts to be perfect, and these short, personal essays can lead them to new perspectives and even to embrace a vital concept that English psychologist and pediatrician D.W. Winnicott called "the good enough parent." The supportive and inspirational writings of this gentle parenting book can help any soul embarked upon this wild, sacred work recognize the wisdom of poet Norman Fischer's advice that "the only transcendence is fully embracing the ups and downs."

This collection draws on Alicia Jo Rabins' years of experience as a writer, Bible scholar, and feminist Jewish educator, and is based on her popular series of articles on parenting for Kveller.

About the Author
Alicia Jo Rabins is an award-winning performer, musician, poet, and Jewish scholar whose recent film, A Kaddish for Bernie Madoff, is being exhibited at film festivals throughout the US, most recently at the New York Jewish Film Festival. Her writing appears in Kveller, Ecotone Magazine, Tablet Magazine, and American Poetry Review, among others. She is a 2020 Literary Arts Fellow in Poetry and has fellowships from RACC, Bread Loaf Writers Conference, and Lower Manhattan Cultural Council, and the Six Points Fellowship for Emerging Jewish Artists. Rabins graduated Phi Beta Kappa from Barnard College (Creative Writing), holds an MFA in poetry from Warren Wilson and an MA in Jewish Women's and Gender Studies from the Jewish Theological Seminary. Winner of the 2015 American Poetry Review/Honickman Book Prize, and finalist for the National Jewish Book Award, she is also the author of Divinity School and Fruit Geode, and creator of Girls in Trouble, an indie rock song cycle abut biblical women. She lives in Portland, Oregon.

Reviews

"Warm, witty, and wise, Alicia Jo Rabins offers essential advice to parents. Her interpretation of ancient stories suffuses family struggles-both mundane and profound-with beauty and wonder." --Vanessa Hua, author of Forbidden City.

"Alicia Jo Rabins has given parents a gift of insight, solace, solidarity, and care in this exquisite volume of spiritual nourishment. This book is a blessing for anyone in the trenches of life with littles." --Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg, author of Nurture the Wow and On Repentance and Repair: Making Amends in an Unapologetic World.

Do you ever have days when you feel like the least orga nized par ent at drop-off? When you're cer tain that if you hear the word "why" from your tod dler one more time you'll scream? When you just want to dis ap pear into a dark, qui et room and hide from the chaos hap pen ing in your home? Or even con sid er whether hav ing kids was a good idea?

These are the sorts of ques tions that Ali cia Jo Rabins asks and answers in her new book, Even God Had Bad Par ent ing Days, while using Jew ish wis dom - gleaned from the Torah, midrashim, Tal mud, and oth er ancient texts - to explore the not-so-Insta gram-wor thy ele ments of twen ty-first cen tu ry par ent ing. An accom plished artist, per former, writer, and Torah teacher, Rabins has craft ed a deeply relat able, com fort ing guide for any one who ever feels over whelmed by par ent hood. Writ ing of the High Hol i day songs that so often paint God as the ulti mate patient and lov ing par ent-fig ure, she says, "I con fess that this idea of act ing with infi nite com pas sion feels firm ly beyond my reach. And that's why, from a parent's per spec tive, I actu al ly find it com fort ing to remem ber that God - as described in the Torah - is impa tient, imper fect, and some times down right pis sy," such as when Korah is jeal ous of Moses and Aaron's lead er ship roles. "Does God calm ly say, 'Tell me more about what you're feel ing'? No, God does not. Instead God opens up a giant hole in the ground" that swal lows him whole. The point, of course, is not to advo cate for crap py par ent ing, but to help par ents and care givers feel less alone in moments when rais ing a child is hard and patience wears thin.

One of the book's strengths is that it is orga nized into short, the mat ic chap ters - most of them only three or four pages long - that are quick reads, acces si ble to even the most sleep-deprived, time-strapped par ent. Rabins cou ples her own tri umphs and chal lenges with Jew ish teach ings, a cre ative deci sion that pro vides com fort with out com ing across as patron iz ing or false ly opti mistic. For instance, Even God Had Bad Parenting Days does not shy away from mat ters like the author's post par tum depres sion, lone li ness, and finan cial strain. This authen tic i ty sets Even God Had Bad Parenting Days apart from oth er par ent ing books. It reads as though it has been writ ten by an expe ri enced mom friend who's seen it all, who lis tens with out judg ment, and who always offers the best response to life's dif fi cul ties - even if that response is just to rub your back and say she under stands. Par ent ing can feel like a lone ly, stress ful endeav or, but Even God Had Bad Parenting Days will make any par ent or care giv er feel seen, under stood, and more inti mate ly con nect ed to Jew ish teachings. --Leah Grisham, The Jewish Book Council

Book Information
ISBN 9781681150710
Author Alicia Jo Rabins
Format Hardback
Page Count 224
Imprint Behrman House Inc.,U.S.
Publisher Behrman House Inc.,U.S.